Blah, blah, blah!

Gary WebberMediation

There can be a tendency in mediations, and indeed in life generally, when two parties are trying to persuade each other of their position, for one of the parties to say something like “and another point is …” and out it comes before the last one has sunk in. The speaker may feel better at having got all the stuff out of their head but they are unlikely to have persuaded anyone to do anything. It is much better to slow things down and make sure each issue has been understood before moving on. If you are the listener ask for permission to relate back the essence of what you believe you have heard. You don’t need to agree with the point. At this stage all you need to do is understand it.